What You Did Today

[algroth]

In my experience, chasing a girl too enthusiastically can lead to alienating her somewhat. If she doesn't want to have anything to do with you, best to resist the urge and look elsewhere, there'll always be many other girls out there after all. I tend to not try twice nowadays after a first few bad experiences. :D

[WDeranged]

In my experience, chasing a girl too enthusiastically can lead to alienating her somewhat. If she doesn't want to have anything to do with you, best to resist the urge and look elsewhere, there'll always be many other girls out there after all. I tend to not try twice nowadays after a first few bad experiences. :D

 

I've made that mistake before but I think I managed to catch myself this time.  She obviously wants to spend time with me, I'm just super wary of the friend zone 

[ShadySands]

Just tell her how you feel and let the cards fall where they may

 

PS that may be terrible advice but I'm not one for games. Always worked for me anyway

Edited November 5, 2016 by ShadySands

[Malcador]

In my experience, chasing a girl too enthusiastically can lead to alienating her somewhat. If she doesn't want to have anything to do with you, best to resist the urge and look elsewhere, there'll always be many other girls out there after all. I tend to not try twice nowadays after a first few bad experiences. :D

For some reason, first thing that came mind when chasing a girl was trying to disable her as to make pursuit easy.

[teknoman2]

 

In my experience, chasing a girl too enthusiastically can lead to alienating her somewhat. If she doesn't want to have anything to do with you, best to resist the urge and look elsewhere, there'll always be many other girls out there after all. I tend to not try twice nowadays after a first few bad experiences. :D

For some reason, first thing that came mind when chasing a girl was trying to disable her as to make pursuit easy.

 

if you know how to use them, bolas are a great way to catch her without damaging her legs

[Longknife]

I'm depressed.

[melkathi]

That's why you have us. Our posting can be very uplifting *nodnod*

 

 

But I am off to the NanoWrimo meeting. And I dislike NanoWrimo and my notebook is broke so I can't write.

[Gfted1]

Ive been out of the game for so long that I probably couldn't pick up a woman in a whorehouse. Good luck WD!

 

My neighbor and I plan on going fishing this morning at daybreak.

[Hurlshort]

I am super thankful I hooked up with my wife before the days of all the internet dating, that's for sure.  

[Guard Dog]

My advice to anyone who wants it. Get married between the ages of 24 and 39. By 24 you have lived a little, had fun, sown the oats, etc. It gets repetitive. After 39 you are pretty set in your ways and will have difficulty adjusting to someone else. But more importantly you and anyone you meet will have been through a lot of relationships by that point. And since they are not married many of them may have been bad ones. By this time people are so emotionally damaged that can no longer trust and probably shouldn't be trusted. It's sad to say the the people who have been betrayed are often the ones who wouldn't bat an eyelash about betraying someone else.

 

If you have a working relationship/marriage etc. Hold onto it. Do what you must, sacrifice what you must, grind whatever grist the mill requires to keep it healthy. It is a prize of great worth and far less common than you'd believe. 

[Malcador]

I'm depressed.

If you kill yourself don't inconvenience others by jumping in front of traffic or a subway.

[Longknife]

 

I'm depressed.

Then get professional help. Trust me, that is the best way to tackle it. Where do you live? maybe we  can help you somehow... find out where you could drop by and so on

 

 

I did. That's part of the problem. I'm even being "kicked out" because my psychologist...well, she seems to believe I'm quite mentally capable, healthy and quite mentally "self-aware" as she put it. Initially that was a compliment in the sense I don't think too many people are chased off by therapy because the psychologist can't find a problem with you or your reasoning/handling of problems, but here I am and I still feel overly sensitive or quick to melancholy.

 

Found myself getting really upset over something so trivial and stupid, and that's bothersome. I shouldn't be bothered by it, yet I am. I can't help that, and shaming myself over that obviously doesn't help. The simple fact I'm easily bothered by something stupid though...? Like wtf did I get a terrible psychologist? Is this just my life? Do I have to live with being super self-critical, easily saddened by quarrels or little problems I see with the way the world works? Am I just a sad individual by default? And if my psychologist is bad, it took years to get around to going to one. To wait years and then to walk out feeling like I've gained nothing at all and like I'm still on my own, that's not a good feeling.

 

It's especially not good because I'm already hard-wired that I keep problems to myself. Part of the reason I even make that post...? Can't bring myself to talk to most people about my problems out of fear of being a burden or making the problem worse, so just "vent" somewhere anonymous where no one has to care. Even so I've written up long explanations of my problem at various places and backspace/deleted them multiple times. Why? Cause it's embarassing and people judge. Usually I have the stance of "screw it" because I believe EVERYONE has things about them that are embarassing to confess to, and if I confess to them that doesn't make me better or worse, it just makes me more transparent. Cool, I like that. I like letting people know exactly who I am. There is some value to being able to own up to your worst moments and your downsides. With stuff like depression though or issues where you're sensitive? All it takes is one asswipe stating "LOL UR PATHETIC" and the problem worsens, so once again I save it for me.

 

Overall though, I've just got a beef that's got me down, and when I think about how I wanna discuss it...I did get help, and help told me I'm a healthy, mentally sound individual that should be proud of how self-aware I am, and that all I need is a little work, activity and support and I'll be able to cope with my issues myself. I don't feel proud, I just feel sad, and like no matter what I do I'm always gonna be "alone" with my problems while others constantly come to me for support. (which yes, happened today)

[Longknife]

 

I'm depressed.

If you kill yourself don't inconvenience others by jumping in front of traffic or a subway.

 

 

This asswipe right here. It's a good thing he's too obvious about his spite and hatefulness or I'd probably value that statement enough to do it.

[Malcador]

Not hateful, that was practical advice for a potential plan. They do it via subways here a lot, which is awful as they give the drivers PTSD from it. Rather selfish, when you think about it.

Edited November 5, 2016 by Malcador

[algroth]

So far, went on a walk with my mum (who's leaving tonight for a trip to the US for two weeks), got back to find my kitchen completely flooded due to a hole on my thermotank. :excl:

Edited November 5, 2016 by algroth

[teknoman2]

i got bitten by a cat today. i was petting it and i saw that there was some mud stuck on it's neck so i tried to get it off. apparently my attempt was painful for the cat and since my arm was near its mouth, it bit me a little above the wrist. fortunately my jacket stopped 3 of the fangs from reaching me but the bite was so hard that one of the fangs managed to scratch my skin. i washed it, rubbed some alcohol on it and then added some betadine for greater effect. i have some left over antibiotics from a couple of months ago so i will take a pill too after dinner just to be safe. you can never be too careful with animal bites. if i see anything wrong with it by tomorrow i will go to the hospital

[Longknife]

Not hateful, that was practical advice for a potential plan. They do it via subways here a lot, which is awful as they give the drivers PTSD from it. Rather selfish, when you think about it.

 

Listen, I don't know if you're playing dumb or legitimately so, but do not joke about such a thing with someone who mentions they're depressed.

I'm not someone that would act on that (at least I don't think), but plenty would. If someone were to kill themselves because you or someone else made a comment like that? That's negligence at it's absolute worst, so I don't care how seriously you take someone when they talk about depression or suicide, do not make remarks like that. If you can't say anything else, don't say anything period.

[Gfted1]

Caught a smallmouth bass and gave it to a dude a few poles down who was eyeing it enviously. As repayment he offered to give me some home made "Mexican carp bait" if I show up next Saturday.

 

Now maybe some lunch and a restart of Stellaris. I think I need to build a giant murderfleet before I explore too much.

[Azdeus]

i got bitten by a cat today. i was petting it and i saw that there was some mud stuck on it's neck so i tried to get it off. apparently my attempt was painful for the cat and since my arm was near its mouth, it bit me a little above the wrist. fortunately my jacket stopped 3 of the fangs from reaching me but the bite was so hard that one of the fangs managed to scratch my skin. i washed it, rubbed some alcohol on it and then added some betadine for greater effect. i have some left over antibiotics from a couple of months ago so i will take a pill too after dinner just to be safe. you can never be too careful with animal bites. if i see anything wrong with it by tomorrow i will go to the hospital

 

Did it manage to catch you near a tendon? My cat bit my mother in the wrist once, she had to go on sick leave for 4 weeks due to the infection in the tendon that came after. That said, she waited a bit too long to go to the doctors.

 

I love my current cat, for once, the cat is predictable unlike many other cats we've had.

[Malcador]

 

 

Not hateful, that was practical advice for a potential plan. They do it via subways here a lot, which is awful as they give the drivers PTSD from it. Rather selfish, when you think about it.

Listen, I don't know if you're playing dumb or legitimately so, but do not joke about such a thing with someone who mentions they're depressed.

I'm not someone that would act on that (at least I don't think), but plenty would. If someone were to kill themselves because you or someone else made a comment like that? That's negligence at it's absolute worst, so I don't care how seriously you take someone when they talk about depression or suicide, do not make remarks like that. If you can't say anything else, don't say anything period.

Hm, not seeing anything negligent. Others aren't my responsibility to begin with, but wasn't encouragement to do so just a consult on the implementation they choose.

 

Have to get our furnace replaced so today is going to be talking to sales people a lot. Wonderful, but 16 years is probably near the EOL of the unit, so can't be avoided (well, it can, we'd just need to do without heat)

[teknoman2]

 

i got bitten by a cat today. i was petting it and i saw that there was some mud stuck on it's neck so i tried to get it off. apparently my attempt was painful for the cat and since my arm was near its mouth, it bit me a little above the wrist. fortunately my jacket stopped 3 of the fangs from reaching me but the bite was so hard that one of the fangs managed to scratch my skin. i washed it, rubbed some alcohol on it and then added some betadine for greater effect. i have some left over antibiotics from a couple of months ago so i will take a pill too after dinner just to be safe. you can never be too careful with animal bites. if i see anything wrong with it by tomorrow i will go to the hospital

 

Did it manage to catch you near a tendon? My cat bit my mother in the wrist once, she had to go on sick leave for 4 weeks due to the infection in the tendon that came after. That said, she waited a bit too long to go to the doctors.

 

I love my current cat, for once, the cat is predictable unlike many other cats we've had.

 

no, it's a finger length above the wrist and it's just a superficial scratch, the fang didn't go in

[BruceVC]

 

Not hateful, that was practical advice for a potential plan. They do it via subways here a lot, which is awful as they give the drivers PTSD from it. Rather selfish, when you think about it.

 

Listen, I don't know if you're playing dumb or legitimately so, but do not joke about such a thing with someone who mentions they're depressed.

I'm not someone that would act on that (at least I don't think), but plenty would. If someone were to kill themselves because you or someone else made a comment like that? That's negligence at it's absolute worst, so I don't care how seriously you take someone when they talk about depression or suicide, do not make remarks like that. If you can't say anything else, don't say anything period.

 

Why shouldn't he joke about it ? Does Malc have such impact on your life that if he says " you must kill yourself " then you may do it? Is he that influential in your decisions ?

 

 

Really ? People have been telling me to kill myself since 2001, its just words and it should be irrelevant.  Toughen up son, its the Internet

 

" and the whole Internet  is a stage and all people mere actors "   

Edited November 5, 2016 by BruceVC

[Malcador]

I expected more than 15 years. Actually, a funny response to that in person is to say you will but you'll take them with you.

[Blarghagh]

Why shouldn't he joke about it ? Does Malc have such impact on your life that if he says " you must kill yourself " then you may do it? Is he that influential in your decisions ?

Well he did say he was easily bothered by stupid things.

 

Longknife, take what you said about your psychologist here to him. Tell him that despite his apparent faith in you, you DON'T feel (like you're getting) better and that you need them to find a different approach. Psychiatrist's usually don't kick you out unless you let them. I've had similar experiences, generally they will try to find another way to get to it. I was told the same thing once, that I have the knowledge and skills required to beat this thing. But I was also so deep into it that even with that, I couldn't.

 

Now, I'm no psychiatrist but I have significant experience in being in therapy. Have you and your psychologist tried cognitive therapy? Because it sounds to me like you keep running into the same thought patterns to hold you back. Negative thought-patterns can stick with you for a long time even if you discredit them logically, because they pop up automatically and make you feel like **** first before you can use your counter-arguments and then arguing with your own brain is also a hugely energy and willpower consuming task. Cognitive therapy is based on slowly making the counter-arguments faster and more powerful, more automatic, take less effort.

[Hurlshort]

I hope teknoman doesn't turn into a strange cat hero/villain.