TheHarlequin Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 Ok... I am perplexed. Seriously. I am in my mid 30s and I still don't understand women. They say one thing and then do another without apparent remorse or consideration for the other person. Bordering on lying to your face rather then simply be honest. I have run into a short string of women who have decided to say one thing to me then do another. Rather then simply be honest at the start, so I have decided to take then opportunity to look into this. I have come up with 3 distinct possibilities; 1. They simply have no intestinal fortitude to look one in the face and tell the truth. They think by feeding said person a line which they have no intentions of doing, then turn around walk away and never follow up it's apparently 'ok'. Let me be clear to all women reading this; if you are NOT interested in making plans or seeing the guy again JUST SAY SO. We are not going to jump off a bridge, trust me. Any half reasonable guy will be 'ok, thanks anyways' and move on. No drama, no BS. Lets be honest sweety, you are one of a few HUNDRED girls we will see tonight. If you are not into us then SAY SO and stop feeding us your lines so we can try to meet someone that is indeed interested. I have better things to do, as I think all guys do, then wasting my time and my eve flirting with you when you already know you are not into me. You are not the only girl I could be talking to, trust me. 2. All women on some level are bi-polar. When they meet you and say they will call or they make plans to go out at the time they mean it. By the next day however, for whatever reason, their brain over analyzes the situation or/and freak themselves out due to past baggage, drama, whatnot and then decided it would be best to blow you off or they simply have lost the apparent interested they showed you all the previous night. Within a span of 12 hrs of course. Yea... Time for some meds or therapy I think. 3. I wouldn't be fair if I didn't look at myself. Now I am far from perfect, I'll be the first to admit that. But I am educated, have a few bucks, witty, can hold a convo about many topics, have a high sex drive and stable (more or less ). I have my flaws of course, as everyone does, but I do not think they overrule my positive side. One could say its my approach. I am not forward enough.. or I am too forward.. or I do not play the game the 'right' way.. Well you know.. I am TIRED OF GAMES. I want to meet someone that if she has a interest in me she simple has the 'balls', in the proverbial not literal sense, to follow though if she makes plans on some level. I do not think this is asking for a whole lot. Really. Apparently though it is. Women cry about wanting to met a 'nice guy' and don't want 'games' yet they really don't want that. They more times then not (I lost count how many times I have seen this with my own eyes) will go for the bad boy who's going to treat them like dirt rather then the stable guy who will treat them well. They will kick the decent guys to the curb for the 'edgy' guys then 3 months later whine about how unhappy they are and wonder why. Here's a little story to prove my point, my ex-Melinda who some of you know while we lived together for over a year I treated her as best I could. Gave her respect, supported her, loved her. On a good day I got 50% of that outpouring back. After we broke up due to her burning me I treated her like dirt. Told her 'the only thing you are good for to me is to ****, otherwise leave me alone'. What did she do, kept calling me and wanted to come over for months after. So treated her good, I get treated poorly, I treat her poorly she can't get enough of me?! Granted Melinda needs some SERIOUS therapy due to her past baggage (which is what in the end destroyed our relationship) but even with that said SOMEONE explain that to me in a world that it makes sense.. Granted I am not Mr. smooth player. I don't try to use all the best lines, nor do I play the games. And that probably is the issue. I NEED to play games, play harder to get, not be so honest and upfront and do all the things that in the end the girls may say they don't want but apparently really do. Frankly stop being a decent, nice guy. Too nice it seems. Perhaps I should become that total jackass melinda brought out in me after we broke up and be like that to all women. Perhaps my luck with change then if her reaction is any indication. In closing, while yes these past few situations have been annoying to me, enough so to post this, this isn't a 'woe with me' blog. Not the point nor my style. I am simply trying to vent and perhaps understand what I clearly need to do different. No more and no less. World of Darkness News http://www.wodnews.net --- "I cannot profess to be a theologian; but it seems to me that Christians who believe in a super human Satan have got themselves into a logical impasse with regard to their own religion. For either God can not prevent the mischief of Satan, in which case he is not omnipotent; or else He could do so if he wished, but will not, in which case He is not benevolent. Fortunately, being a pagan witch, I am not called upon to solve this problem." - Doreen Valiente Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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