Romantic drivel

[Walsingham]

See? Romance is about excitement for both sides. It just seems to me that beyond that there's a lot of PERSONAL differences around what we like to see. Some people look for a slow banked fire, some go for a firework.

 

I guess, running with the analogy, that the disjunction between the two parties makes for the fuel to the fire, while the similarities are the oxygen that lets the fuel react. Unless this is just my obsession with fire again.

[I want teh kotor 3]

I think we can all agree that romance is fine so long as it involves swinging from chandeliers and swordfights.

 

But that would be too inherently worth watching (usually) to be a chick flick.

[Laozi]

I've only been in love once and I was 19 and it was my first serious relationship, so does it count? Hell no it doesn't count, so I'm basically A Sexual besides the times I was so drunk on lust that I could convince myself otherwise. The truth is most of us will never get past our egos or desperateness to be in love. You're all filthy frauds if you've convinced yourselves otherwise, or god damn lucky. I love to hate, so when I meet hate I'm gonna hump her like mad

[DeathScepter]

Well I don't get love but it doesn't mean I don't encourage it. Pope, if the second girl is as great as you say give her a chance for your mental and emotionial health unless you mess it up so bad it unfixable.

 

 

 

 

Btw in the real world, I am the type of douchbag that laughs and smirks at lovebirds of all stripes because I hate all lovebirds because I secretly envy all lovebirds. Unless the Lovebirds are douchbags.

[Kor Qel Droma]

How do you tell the douchebags from the non douchebags?

[Guest The Architect]

Their faces.

[DeathScepter]

LOL Architect.

[Tigranes]

Generally, the prettier the girl, the more likely you'll regret their personality.

[Guest The Architect]

Only if they're conceited. Unattractive girls can often be jealous of their more attractive counterparts, making them just as bad as pretty ones. Basically education, especially emotional intelligence = personality. You're just as likely to find a thick as a brick plain girl than you are a hot one. Well, maybe not hot, but "cute" anyway, basically the second best thing to hot.

[Xard]

How do you tell the douchebags from the non douchebags?

 

like this

 

[Guest The Architect]

:lol:

 

I thought they were called metrosexuals.

[Xard]

dude, metrosexuals use make up and are ^2 gayer

 

Douchebags are more annoying

[Guard Dog]

Romance is an important aspect of any relationship. You can't have a healthy relationship without it but by itself it will not mean a healthy relationship. Romance should not be confused with love. You can have romance without love but love requires romance. I'm 37 now. I've been in relationships with many women but I can honestly say I have only loved two of them and married one of those. The first love died when the romance cooled off and we drifted away from each other due to career pressures. I was in the military at the time she had just gotten out and was starting her nursing career. I was sent overseas and the seperation drove us apart. Maybe had we had longer to build something it might have endured. I was very sad but told myself it was just bad luck and bad timing. The second love I actually married. There the romance was all we had. The other apects of love like mutual respect, complementary personalities, common outlook on life, etc. we had none of that. We were great in bed but for most of the rest of the time we were like two scorpions in a jar. It lasted seven stormy years and ended badly as all such relationships do.

 

So you see here are two examples of failed relationships, one had all the other elements but no romance, the other had all romance and nothing else, Neither was healthy. Romance is important, it's like the mortar for the bricks. Without the mortar the house collapses but you need the bricks for the house.

 

Thats my $.02

[qt3.14159]

So you see here are two examples of failed relationships, one had all the other elements but no romance, the other had all romance and nothing else, Neither was healthy. Romance is important, it's like the mortar for the bricks. Without the mortar the house collapses but you need the bricks for the house.

 

Thats my $.02

 

This.

[Guest The Architect]

Aren't you basically saying that romance = lust/looks compatibility and love = the personality/beliefs side of it? And that in order for a relationship to survive both aspects are required? See this is where looks do matter. Most couples are of a similar/equal attractiveness level; sure you'll see the "X is too good for Y" couples but I doubt any of them last, unless a little thing called status is involved, in which case it's not a relationship at all, just a superficially phoney load of crap.

 

@ Xard, minus the make up that guy looks like a metrosexual douchebag.

[mkreku]

Generally, the prettier the girl, the more likely you'll regret their personality.

This is what ugly people tell themselves to feel better.

 

In reality, your personality is not decided by your looks. In my opinion it has much more to do with your general intelligence level. A dumb but pretty girl is usually obsessed with her looks and considers it the most important thing in the world. These are the most annoying ones because you hate them but you still want to do them. But a dumb and ugly girl is equally nasty. The only difference is that you're not annoyed with yourself for secretly wanting them and can hate on them without remorse.

[samm]

A dumb but pretty girl is usually obsessed with her looks and considers it the most important thing in the world.

That's because looks is all she has. I wonder what the dumb and ugly girl has... Dumbness is bad for romance, because then the only thing that will be accepted as "romantic" are clich Edited August 25, 2008 by samm

[qt3.14159]

And yet, when I was in high school and smart, fairly cute (according to others) and didn't give a damn about my looks did I *ever* get asked out?

 

Oh, hell no.

 

The boys were all pining over the dumb chicks that spent hours a day working on their hair.

[Moatilliatta]

Generally, the prettier the girl, the more likely you'll regret their personality.

This is what ugly people tell themselves to feel better.

 

In reality, your personality is not decided by your looks.

Simplifying a bit? It is true that personality isn't decided by looks, but that wasn't what Tigranes was saying. Tigranes was trying to establish a general rule that the prettyness of the girl correlates with the intelligence (or lack of ) of the girl. This isn't very far fetched if you're willing to accept that life is easier for pretty people and pretty people tend to put an overly large focus on socialising which we all know is a waste since it makes them incredibly uninteresting.

 

I has Ph.D. in grrls!

 

@The cute pie

Lesson of your life then is that you should have given a damn about your looks... Or you could be happy that you've spent your time on worthwhile stuff.

[qt3.14159]

Well, caring about my looks just isn't anything I'm capable of for any extended period of time (a night out, sure, daily make up? oh, hell no). So I guess I'll just be glad I was doing other things... though I can't say how worthwhile it really was, I was a teenager, after all.

 

The good news is that the guys worth having do grow up.

[Gfted1]

This isn't very far fetched if you're willing to accept that life is easier for pretty people

 

Agreed.

 

...and pretty people tend to put an overly large focus on socialising which we all know is a waste since it makes them incredibly uninteresting.

 

Could you expand on this a bit?

[samm]

qt: Why would an intelligent girl be interested in guys interested in dumb girls? If you think about it, the guys interested in good looking but stupid girls aren't worth it anyway, can't be taken seriously, and trusted even less. Be glad you didn't catch their attention *shrug*

 

 

The generalizations in this thread, that I contibuted to as well, about "the pretty", "the dumb", "women" and "men" are beginning to make me sick. I can identify with parts of the stereotypes represented herein, and some of the conclusions and other parts of the stereotypes are so totally off that I don't recommend anyone really looking for advice and/or opinions to read this thread.

Edited August 25, 2008 by samm

[theslug]

And yet, when I was in high school and smart, fairly cute (according to others) and didn't give a damn about my looks did I *ever* get asked out?

 

Oh, hell no.

 

The boys were all pining over the dumb chicks that spent hours a day working on their hair.

I think this is a little naive. There could have been tons of reasons why guys didn't want to date you, most of them were probably retarded, its just like what women do. It's like when they say they want a nice guy, but news flash nice guys are boring. As much as women want a guy with confidence (arrogance) men want very similar traits. Why go through the trouble of setting the ground work with a nice and educated and cute girl when you get with someone who is dumb and easily manipulated with the added benefit of being hot? It's a question of time lines. One is like 3 months or more while the other, depending on how good looking you are and how shallow the other person is, could be less than a week.

 

Also girls can ask guys out as well and trust me even though it might be awkward at first I think most guys would think that is amazingly bold and sexy. Though this only works if you certainly are cute. Some girl came on real strong to me once and believe me I was greatly flattered but I had to turn her down really hard. I was like an 8.32 and she was like a rough 6 maybe even a 5.7 so I had no choice. Maybe if she was a 7 I would have considered it but a 6 is like astronomical. It's like when you see those fat sweaty dudes hanging out with the hot chick with the nice ass and you are like wow that girl definitely got molested as a child.

 

I secretly wish sometimes I was that guy. I got the sweaty part down. :'(

[samm]

It's like when they say they want a nice guy, but news flash nice guys are boring.

Correction: Boring is boring. Stupidity has a lot to do with being boring. Being nice doesn't correlate with being stupid, and not directly with being boring. Also, confidence isn't necessarily tied to arrogance. Often it's shyness that's is misinterpreted as arrogance.

 

Also girls can ask guys out as well and trust me even though it might be awkward at first I think most guys would think that is amazingly bold and sexy. Though this only works if you certainly are cute. Some girl came on real strong to me once and believe me I was greatly flattered

I can totally see that, but what do those numbers mean? Please explain :

I was like an 8.32 and she was like a rough 6 maybe even a 5.7 so I had no choice. Maybe if she was a 7 I would have considered it but a 6 is like astronomical.

[Moatilliatta]

...and pretty people tend to put an overly large focus on socialising which we all know is a waste since it makes them incredibly uninteresting.

 

Could you expand on this a bit?

Which part? The one about prettyness leading to greater socialisation or it making them husks that only slightly resemble a human being?

 

@samm

Generalisations are only dangerouss if the person seeking advice doesn't realize that and anybody who is fully capable of critical thinking (age~=>18) will be capable of realising such and those under 18 will make a fool of themselves regardless of what we post here.

 

 

Also what theslug said about girls practically never approaching guys is much too true and I've always held it as a disgrace to the entire female gender. Females are way thougher than that.