What You Did Today

[BruceVC]

 

Not hateful, that was practical advice for a potential plan. They do it via subways here a lot, which is awful as they give the drivers PTSD from it. Rather selfish, when you think about it.

 

Listen, I don't know if you're playing dumb or legitimately so, but do not joke about such a thing with someone who mentions they're depressed.

I'm not someone that would act on that (at least I don't think), but plenty would. If someone were to kill themselves because you or someone else made a comment like that? That's negligence at it's absolute worst, so I don't care how seriously you take someone when they talk about depression or suicide, do not make remarks like that. If you can't say anything else, don't say anything period.

 

Why shouldn't he joke about it ? Does Malc have such impact on your life that if he says " you must kill yourself " then you may do it? Is he that influential in your decisions ?

 

 

Really ? People have been telling me to kill myself since 2001, its just words and it should be irrelevant.  Toughen up son, its the Internet

 

" and the whole Internet  is a stage and all people mere actors "   

Edited November 5, 2016 by BruceVC

[Malcador]

I expected more than 15 years. Actually, a funny response to that in person is to say you will but you'll take them with you.

[Blarghagh]

Why shouldn't he joke about it ? Does Malc have such impact on your life that if he says " you must kill yourself " then you may do it? Is he that influential in your decisions ?

Well he did say he was easily bothered by stupid things.

 

Longknife, take what you said about your psychologist here to him. Tell him that despite his apparent faith in you, you DON'T feel (like you're getting) better and that you need them to find a different approach. Psychiatrist's usually don't kick you out unless you let them. I've had similar experiences, generally they will try to find another way to get to it. I was told the same thing once, that I have the knowledge and skills required to beat this thing. But I was also so deep into it that even with that, I couldn't.

 

Now, I'm no psychiatrist but I have significant experience in being in therapy. Have you and your psychologist tried cognitive therapy? Because it sounds to me like you keep running into the same thought patterns to hold you back. Negative thought-patterns can stick with you for a long time even if you discredit them logically, because they pop up automatically and make you feel like **** first before you can use your counter-arguments and then arguing with your own brain is also a hugely energy and willpower consuming task. Cognitive therapy is based on slowly making the counter-arguments faster and more powerful, more automatic, take less effort.

[Hurlshort]

I hope teknoman doesn't turn into a strange cat hero/villain.  

[Nonek]

Time to burn a Papist and set the night sky afire with fireworks, remember, remember the 5th of November and whatnot, tally ho!

[Malcador]

I hope teknoman doesn't turn into a strange cat hero/villain.

He has the name of a hero/villain already, so he's halfway there.

[algroth]

With regards to the matter of depression, I too suffer from depression (comes and goes in my case) and one thing that is worth pointing out is that people shouldn't underestimate how sensitive the state makes one to comments that may be interpreted in the least bit as mean-spirited, suicide-encouraging, and so on. It comes to a point where even the smallest remarks that may seem ambivalent or direct fills one with insecurities, self-doubting, fear of rejection and being despised, paranoia and so on. Sure, one won't kill themselves for being told by another to do so, but it can add up to a growing sense of suffering where that seems like the only reasonable thing to do. It's a horrible state to be in.

 

I'll also mention that in such situations it's best to avoid the internet altogether, because there'll always be that one person who'll post a cruel/cynical reply and tell you to "grow some skin". But we all know how hard it is to do just that (avoiding the internet, I mean), and sometimes you're also just looking for excuses to carry on feeling miserable. Best advice I can give about it is to not take things too seriously. Many comments are just spoken in passing, some even trying to cheer you up by injecting some humour and levity even through the darkest of means... It's crucial to understand not everyone thinks everything they say and write to that degree, they just say things without giving them much of a second thought. Best to try and let it slip by you, it takes an effort but you'll feel better in the end.

Edited November 7, 2016 by algroth

[Blarghagh]

True. I've done the whole how ****ing dare you you're messing with someone's life thing before, in my experience it's really just best to seethe internally and let it lie. Going into it usually just drags it out.

[Malcador]

True. I've done the whole how ****ing dare you you're messing with someone's life thing before, in my experience it's really just best to seethe internally and let it lie. Going into it usually just drags it out.

But you must let the hate flow through you, it gives you power (and it has 100% dental)

[algroth]

 

True. I've done the whole how ****ing dare you you're messing with someone's life thing before, in my experience it's really just best to seethe internally and let it lie. Going into it usually just drags it out.

But you must let the hate flow through you, it gives you power (and it has 100% dental)

 

They give you cookies *and* they care for your teeth? Sounds too good to be true.

Edited November 5, 2016 by algroth

[BruceVC]

Had another excellent dinner evening with Bronwynn, she is very fit and is doing a 5 km fun run tomorrow. Its good she is into fitness because that will help motivate me around my own cardio training 

[Ben No.3]

I soloed Cail the silent on hard with an lvl8 chanter. Those who play Pillars will understand. Other than that I needed to finish some work. In retrospektive, seems like an eventless day.

[WDeranged]

Bumped into another girl I quite like.  She seemed genuinely happy to see me, suggested some anime for me to watch.  I'd kinda given up on her because she practically ignores me online but she always perks up around me in real life, calls to me from across the street if she sees me.  

 

Like Shady says, I should bite the bullet and ask one of these girls out, if only to stop myself constantly wondering how they feel 

[Hurlshort]

Ok, I made my blog and we recorded the first podcast today.  I've posted it on the site, now I just need to figure out how to post it on iTunes and other stuff.  I've had fun with it.  

 

https://historyofhops.com/

[teknoman2]

I hope teknoman doesn't turn into a strange cat hero/villain.  

nah, it wasn't a radioactive cat

[Calax]

Apparently my office is going to be doing Tesla's insurance replacement business.

 

Which requires we own and rent Tesla's

 

[Azdeus]

Drove my uncle and aunt to the airport, big mistake. My back is really killing me now to the point that I want to break my own neck just to not feel it.

[Gfted1]

Well, I don't know where they come from but they sure do come

I hope they comin' for me

And I don't know how they do it but they sure do it good

I hope they're doin' it for free

 

They give me cat scratch fever

Cat scratch fever

 

 

Pfft, you guys don't need to worry unless you see puss or a red line running up your arm.

 

Today is Sunday so that means I'll be furiously busting out my chores for the week; groceries, laundry. Then settle in for some football and garage drinking.

[BruceVC]

I have  just been to gym, first time in 2 months so I'm clearly not that fit 

 

But it went well, I did my 60 minutes of cardio. I'm not  pushing it on the cardio disciplines and for the next 7 sessions I'll just be getting back into the training regime 

[Gfted1]

Ok, I made my blog and we recorded the first podcast today.  I've posted it on the site, now I just need to figure out how to post it on iTunes and other stuff.  I've had fun with it.  

 

https://historyofhops.com/

Very nice! I dig the podcast, its always fun to me to hear the voice(s) behind the avatar.

[Malcador]

Woke up today thinking it was Saturday, sadly it isn't so back to work tomorrow. Ruined my whole day!

[Labadal]

Woke up today thinking it was Saturday, sadly it isn't so back to work tomorrow. Ruined my whole day!

Last Wednesday, I thought it was Thursday and I was very happy that there was only one more day of work...

[Malcador]

I try to remember that there is only Monday and days that lead to Monday

[Calax]

Ok, I made my blog and we recorded the first podcast today.  I've posted it on the site, now I just need to figure out how to post it on iTunes and other stuff.  I've had fun with it.  

 

https://historyofhops.com/

... Can we also do an Obsidian "argue about games" podcast?

[Azdeus]

Ok, I made my blog and we recorded the first podcast today.  I've posted it on the site, now I just need to figure out how to post it on iTunes and other stuff.  I've had fun with it.  

 

https://historyofhops.com/

 

While I don't really have the passion for Hops that you do, I really liked listening to it. It was very cozy to listen to it. There was a couple of times when you two spoke in each others mouths that I could'nt hear a single word that was said, but I'm in the extreme spectrum since I have a hearing impairment.

 

Hope to hear more!