When you've consistently flipflopped on a great many issues, including Fallout 3, it's difficult to take what you say too literally.
As for the most recent "irony" comment, it's clear you and I just have different definitions of what a "middle-ground" is.
I don't consider it to be "flexibility" to have exactly the game you want, with extras added in for other people. Allowing the inclusion of game components that you don't have to use is just an added bonus, and in no way will affect you at all. It doesn't seem flexible to me at all. I'm quite confident that the inclusion of a first-person view or real time combat would be rejected, if it meant cutting into any of the "traditional" Fallout items. It's easy to ask for extra, bonus stuff that doesn't affect your play style. I'm sure everyone would like that.