When you think about it, all forms of entertainment are a waste of time...
When you have a few hours to kill you can watch TV, a movie, play video games, read a book, sleep, write or do something with friends if, unlike me, you have some.
Thing is, "waste" is a pejorative term. I'd rather think of video games(and other forms of entertainment) as a hobby. It's relaxing also and most RPGs are slow pace and you can just sit with a mug of coffee and relax.
Also, not all CRPGs are slow-paced pnpDnD adaptations. Have you tried Wizardry 8, Deux Ex, System Shock, etc?
And how many CRPG Devs out there? Bioware, Obsidian and Bethesda(there are others, small and struggling to survive etc but come on, we only care about those 3) and that small list kind of limits the variety because they all have their own way of doing things(although Obs is a wildcard).
Ultimately Glinth you're overreacting. And it happens to a lot of us. What helps me in these "hard" times is to write a game design document. Write down what you would like in your CRPGs. It helps.
Good luck!
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