Judge Hades, there is some truth & realism to your point of view, but you are taking those cynical truths and turning it into an extremist way of living/viewing the world.
You have given up hope and the heart to even leave open the option to help other people outside your own small circle, and that path, IMO, leads to self-immolation at some point or another - not only for yourself but for the world at large if everyone succumbed to it.
As to Iraq - I think we shouldn't have gone in with guns blazing, 9/11 or not - I was pretty disappointed when fear after 9/11 had so many public polls saying we should go stomp 'em out, as if you could get rid of terrorism that way - but now that we're in it, I don't think we should just up and leave them to chaos, either. But I do think Bush is a stupid self-serving ignoramus who will probably fumble and bungle the situation, and I wish it would end.