Rift is fantastic, I played it for quite a few months and logged a lot of hours. It is definitely a WoW-type MMO, but it does so extremely well. I thought I remember you not digging WoW though, so it might be for you.
WAR Online was actually a decent game, but it relies heavily on having a good population and having a good network of friends. I played at release, but if the servers are really ghost towns now, I don't imagine it will be much fun. It did a couple cool things, but it seemed like it got stretched too thin.
It's funny, Rift took all the decent things about WAR and fixed them.