Yes, all car owners (drivers) should be ashamed of reckless drivers, and I'd probably say it would fall on coders to be ashamed of hackers, since your average computer user has little understanding of how to hack anything.
Yes, they should all feel invested in finding solutions to those problems, because that would make the world a better place.
What, exactly, is wrong with shame? Does it hurt your sensitive snowflake feelings to be ashamed?
I'm ashamed about that comment, and that's alright. I can grow from it.