If a game plays like a shooter, feels like a shooter, looks like a shooter, then its a shooter. Deus Ex is a shooter. Best damn shooter I have ever played, but still a shooter. Bloodlines was a nice hybrid.
I rather have a story and dialogue system that is very deep and immersive for both genders than have limited character creation options. The idea that the story and immersion will suffer because both genders are catered to is an antiquated notion that has been squashed by modern CRPGs. Want proof? Play Mass Effect.