Im alone no family it stinks sometimes

[ctn2003]

Hi their i really had nothing to do on Christmas or any other holiday for that matter so i just came around hear...turns out i was ALSO alone online witch kinda makes it even more depressing lol you'd think online their would be tones of people but it turns out their IS but FAR fewer and when i tell people they are just like " aw boo hoo go F yourself big baby" :/   any ideas on what to do with my self? on a holiday :/

[Namutree]

Watch this video perpetually until you go mad:

 

[Hurlshort]

Join or start a club?

 

That's really the main reason churches are still so relevant, they give a sense of community.  But even if you aren't the religious type, there are a few good options for the holidays.  When my family and I had a falling out a few years back, I decided to spend the Christmas Eve I typically reserved for them helping out at a church food drive.  It has been wonderful.

[Lexx]

You could try Scientology.

[Walsingham]

Saints Row.

[Valsuelm]

Hire some hookers, buy a lot of drugs and compete with Charlie Sheen.

 

Sheen is an amateur. Pros don't **** their heads up to the point they think they're 'winning' a losing game.

 

@OP: Get off your ass, step away from the computer, go outside and do something. Fresh air does wonders. Perhaps find yourself a

 

 

If you're Pro like that guy then maybe you could get yourself songified.

 

 

Either way, the journey is worth it if you make it.

Edited December 27, 2014 by Valsuelm

[Guard Dog]

One word my friend... booze. It's inexpensive, legal, and easy to get. It's not a long term solution (at least it shouldn't be) but it will get you through the holidays. A long time ago I was where you are. No job, no friends and going through a bitter divorce. I got through it by getting really drunk and watching Mystery Science Theater 3000 and playing a lot of Baldurs Gate. That got me through Thanksgiving and Christmas with relatively little depression. Then on January 1st I put the cap on the bottle, took the tape from the VCR and started living life again.

 

You don't want to be that way forever, you'd probably end up shooting yourself. But it can get you through a "rough patch" with it.

[Guard Dog]

Watch this video perpetually until you go mad:

 

Screw torture, use this to interrogate terrorists.

[Walsingham]

 

Watch this video perpetually until you go mad:

 

Screw torture, use this to interrogate terrorists.

 

 

Who the hell do you think made the damn video in the first place?

[BruceVC]

Hire some hookers, buy a lot of drugs and compete with Charlie Sheen.

 

I agree with this, get an all night hooker..but someone who you can have a conversation with. It doesn't sound like  you have a moral issue with it ?

[Woldan]

No offense, but I'd hesitate to call a prostitute a worthy consultant about family matters and life.

 

Also, if you ask me, being with people stinks just as much as being alone, just in a different way.

Edited December 30, 2014 by Woldan

[HoonDing]

Hookers will just make you more depressed. No companionship is worth paying for.

[ShadySands]

All companionship costs something /romance

[Luridis]

Why, precisely, is it that you're lonely?

 

This is not me poking fun or being facetious, absolutely serious actually.

[Walsingham]

...Because the convention is that you should be with people at Christmas.

 

You don't get an existential crisis any other day of the year if you're alone. You just enjoy having some time to yourself.

[BruceVC]

...Because the convention is that you should be with people at Christmas.

 

You don't get an existential crisis any other day of the year if you're alone. You just enjoy having some time to yourself.

 

Very true, well said Walsie. I've been fortunate enough to never be alone at Xmas but I wouldn't enjoy it I can guarantee you that 

[Longknife]

 

Hookers will just make you more depressed. No companionship is worth paying for.

 

Clearly you never hired an high class expensive ones. And you can ask anybody hookers cost less then a girlfriend and you have more sex. Win - win situation, you save money and have more sex.

 

 

It's definitely not something for everyone. Intimacy is a real thing, and for some people (myself included) a lack of intimacy is a big no. It feels weird as **** partaking in intimate actions with someone I'm not intimate with. (and before anyone asks, no I've not hired a hooker, merely went to some of those stupid parties college kids do where you have to make out with so and so or get a lapdance from so and so)

 

 

   Anyways, I agree with Walshingham's sentiment. I think you're equating "I'm alone on Christmas" with "nobody loves me," which would be a mistake. I was alone on Christmas too, doesn't mean jack. My parents live across the Atlantic (and I prefer it that way), my only family here is an uncle who's cool but has issues with stress and likes to disappear from time to time (which I respect, I know the feeling of wanting to escape) and I was invited to a friend's Christmas dinner but politely declined cause quite honestly I've done it before and I feel out of place.

 

Solitude can be fun. One year I had to walk to a friend's house for Christmas when the buses weren't running, had to go through a town of 160,000 while it was dead silent. Was actually pretty neat to see the city so dead. Only people in town were some Chinese tourists who were FUKN AMAZED by this tacky Christmas light reindeer display some business had up for some reason. Ended up helping those tourists take pictures equally as amazed by all the random things that amazed them (still have NO idea what's so amazing about a Christmas light reindeer, and it's made even funnier by the fact they missed our quirky lingerie-and-coffee store that's always being named one of the best businesses in town), and honestly I wish I could do THAT again. It may sound very simple, but I dunno. Happening across those guys and giving them an opportunity to all be in their vacation photos together seemed like a nice Christmas-y gesture, and it was entertaining just to see the cultures clash and all the weird **** that amazed them.

 

  Another year it was just me and this one depressed guy at a bus stop, both going to a friends. He wasn't taking it well, like you, and felt worthless and unloved and explained his parents were dead and his dad was always rather hard on him. I just kinda chatted with him and explained my dad hates my guts too, but you can't let it get you down cause you're your own person, and some parents just aren't able to cope with that. He actually seemed very cheered up by that and even moreso when I explained I was half-American, cause as it turned out, teaching HIMSELF english and paying attention to British and American culture was his hobby. He started trying some english on me and we discussed english grammar (I tutor it a lot) and his english was actually really really good for being self-taught. (best I've encountered, actually) When I told him this, it made his day. Could just tell, he was freaking BEAMING.

 

 

   Anyways point I'm trying to make is you are NOT the only person alone on Christmas, and I think you only feel sad and that much more lonely because society presents this image you should not be alone on Christmas. Don't let that bother you, plenty of people are and plenty relate to the stress you feel. Take comfort in knowing that and just try to enjoy the solitude + free day off.

[Gromnir]

All companionship costs something /romance

net or gross?  if you persist on enduring a long-term relationship wherein costs outweigh return on investment, you is likely making a mistake maintaining the relationship... or perhaps we is referencing family?

 

however, excepting romance wherein we thinks folks is often bug-nut crazy in their seeming desperation to avoid being alone, we will concede our hypocrisy in this regard as we frequently indulge in relationships wherein we is near absolute certain that the ledger will end up looking poor. hope? charity? is perhaps proof o' the perversity o' The Universe, but the folks who need help is those least likely to genuine embrace aid. perhaps we is so willing to help the helpless as we recognize our self in such folks and thus we is in fact getting payment in spite o' the seeming futility? dunno. 

 

HA! Good Fun!

[Walsingham]

 

...Because the convention is that you should be with people at Christmas.

 

You don't get an existential crisis any other day of the year if you're alone. You just enjoy having some time to yourself.

 

Very true, well said Walsie. I've been fortunate enough to never be alone at Xmas but I wouldn't enjoy it I can guarantee you that 

 

 

Then you've missed my point, old boy. Why be upset? If one were a true Chrissian then you'd feel kinship with God and Christ on that day. Pretty decent company.

 

And if you aren't a Christian then why give a hurtling purple f***?

[Nonek]

Hi their i really had nothing to do on Christmas or any other holiday for that matter so i just came around hear...turns out i was ALSO alone online witch kinda makes it even more depressing lol you'd think online their would be tones of people but it turns out their IS but FAR fewer and when i tell people they are just like " aw boo hoo go F yourself big baby" :/   any ideas on what to do with my self? on a holiday :/

 

I can sell you my family if you wish, Lord knows i've had enough of them.

[BruceVC]

 

 

...Because the convention is that you should be with people at Christmas.

 

You don't get an existential crisis any other day of the year if you're alone. You just enjoy having some time to yourself.

 

Very true, well said Walsie. I've been fortunate enough to never be alone at Xmas but I wouldn't enjoy it I can guarantee you that 

 

 

Then you've missed my point, old boy. Why be upset? If one were a true Chrissian then you'd feel kinship with God and Christ on that day. Pretty decent company.

 

And if you aren't a Christian then why give a hurtling purple f***?

 

 

No I'm not religious at all but Xmas represents something else to someone like me, I really enjoy seeing my family who live in DBN over that time period. Xmas is just a time I associate with family or being around people so even though I could quite capably be by myself I wouldn't  want to over that specific time period  

[Woldan]

Clearly you never hired an high class expensive ones. And you can ask anybody hookers cost less then a girlfriend and you have more sex. Win - win situation, you save money and have more sex.

This is amazingly shallow. 

A real partner (and friend) is someone who genuinely cares about you and you can rely onto even in dire times, sex is just one of many important aspects in a relationship. If you think a hooker can provide you with all the wonderful things you get from a true relationship then I can only ask you if you've ever been in a proper relationship.

 

Edited December 30, 2014 by Woldan

[Woldan]

OMG, dude this is probably the most gay thing anyone ever wrote on this forum. Get back to your Twilight fantasies and leave the serious topics to adults.

This answers all my questions I had about you, thank you for being so clear about it.

[Hurlshort]

 

 

Clearly you never hired an high class expensive ones. And you can ask anybody hookers cost less then a girlfriend and you have more sex. Win - win situation, you save money and have more sex.

This is amazingly shallow. 

A real partner (and friend) is someone who genuinely cares about you and you can rely onto even in dire times, sex is just one of many important aspects in a relationship. If you think a hooker can provide you with all the wonderful things you get from a true relationship then I can only ask you if you've ever been in a proper relationship.

 

 

 

OMG, dude this is probably the most gay thing anyone ever wrote on this forum. Get back to your Twilight fantasies and leave the serious topics to adults.

 

 

Way to ramp up the shallowness there.  It's also telling that you use the word gay to describe Woldan's words, and yet you seem unable to connect with a woman in anything more than a physical exchange of services rendered.

 

And yeah, maturity.     

[BruceVC]

 

 

 

Clearly you never hired an high class expensive ones. And you can ask anybody hookers cost less then a girlfriend and you have more sex. Win - win situation, you save money and have more sex.

This is amazingly shallow. 

A real partner (and friend) is someone who genuinely cares about you and you can rely onto even in dire times, sex is just one of many important aspects in a relationship. If you think a hooker can provide you with all the wonderful things you get from a true relationship then I can only ask you if you've ever been in a proper relationship.

 

 

 

OMG, dude this is probably the most gay thing anyone ever wrote on this forum. Get back to your Twilight fantasies and leave the serious topics to adults.

 

 

Way to ramp up the shallowness there.  It's also telling that you use the word gay to describe Woldan's words, and yet you seem unable to connect with a woman in anything more than a physical exchange of services rendered.

 

And yeah, maturity.     

 

 

We all know that Sharp_One sometimes makes comments that make us cringe with embarrassment but I think he has a point here but hes not explaining it properly 

 

I think we all agree that obviously a hooker can never give you the same emotional satisfaction or connection  as a family member but to be fair we aren't really talking about that here. We are talking about someone saying he will be alone on Xmas and some of us suggesting he can hire someone to keep him occupied for the night, he doesn't have to be alone. Its really a personal choice, personally I would rather pay someone to keep me company on Xmas than to be alone...but thats just me

 

Also many escorts will tell you  sometimes there clients don't even want sex, they literally just want someone to talk to. You guys will be surprised how many people are financially successful but single and use the services of hooker for companionship only.

 

So based on the Ops original dilemma I still think its not a bad idea considering the circumstances