I can somewhat relate to this, though my case is quite different. Firstly, I'm a bit younger ( ), but I also tend to flip into this meta mode. Or at least it happened with my first playthrough of Planescape: Torment, which I finished at the end of last year. But I think that was actually more because I wanted to see and experience everything (because of my humongous backlog, which consist of a big amount of old and new RPGs), so I risked some looks at various walkthroughs.
Believe it or not, it did not seem to dimish my enjoyment of the game that much, though.
Secondly, the first "RPG" I ever played (for real) was Mass Effect. Yeah, I know, it's an ARPG, or whatever you'd like to call it, but at the time I didn't make such distinctions. I just really enjoyed the universe, the characters and the story. It impressed me. And I knew of the story before I played the game and I still loved the heck out of it (and went on to invest quite a few hours in the games).
So bearing this in mind, I was afraid I couldn't get into the classics, especially the D&Ds. But I really did enjoy P:T. Hopefully I'll also be able to enjoy Baldur's Gate and the NWN series. I also bought all the Ultimas, but I don't think I'll ever play through the first three
DA:O is probably the first game I played that can qualify as a CRPG and I also enjoyed it.
Now, hardcore gamers might hate me for this, but honestly I think "the dumbing down" of various elements is sometimes in favor of the enjoyment of the game. I can live without quest markers (as I did in P:T, where I usually found my target without a walkthrough), but as far as combat systems, resting and other such mechanics are concerned, I prefer the "ARPG/modern CRPG approach", if you know what I mean.
Ultimately, the way you view games really depends on which games you grew up with/which "era" you lived in and what your current situation is. As a student I can't (or shouldn't ) waste my time on hard-core battles or despair because of various mechanics and I'm playing RPGs for the story, anyway (of course, everybody has their own motivations).
Think I'll enjoy this game a lot, though =)