BruceVC

@ LN I read your post and I would like to comment, firstly I don't agree with our two friends above. Your situation isn't that bad, you just need to make some decisions and I'll give you the options So lets get the obvious out the way, of course your mom loves you but she is unable to stop being overbearing to the point where its impacting your relationship My parents were divorced when I was 2 but I saw my dad every second weekend. We lived with my mom and she loved us greatly but also spoilt us. I had a very similar issue with my mom, we use to end up just fighting at the end..I couldn't stop getting irritated with her and she would always assume I would mess things up because I often use to get instructions wrong because she would say " don't forget to feed the dogs " Anyway your solution is simple, in order to get your life and relationship with her normal again you need to move out ...that's the best approach. You can't really explain this to her or get her or you to change the current dynamic Yes I understand your financial situation but you can make a plan, you will need to sacrifice a few things but I live in a country where millions of people live in abject poverty. So please don't say " you cannot move out " as I will see this as an excuse. You just plan it and tell your mom..no need to run If you don't move then you cannot get annoyed anymore with your mom. So for me this boils down to a choice about comfort but a happier life ...it may not seem like it but I would advise moving out. Yo will them see how your relationship with your mom will get better

Geez dude I didn't read LN post as its too long but I don't think people really expect that type of honesty

I don't know, I am not that sympathetic to people who make excuses for simply not doing there job

By deflecting the British Empire's treatment of aboriginals to an unrelated topic. You see unlike you I see things in there full extent, I don't just select what is appropriate for my country

They're Australian aboriginals. Yes I know but obviously slavery and photos like that obviously invoke guilt about the UK role which I feel obliged to respond to

Thanks Bruce Of course the practice of slavery was a blight on the European countries and the Americans, no one should deny that Would it make any difference if I mentioned that certain African tribes were complicit and the Arabs were also very active in the slave trade?

Volo my family is from Britain but I was born in SA What I always find interesting is how little credit the UK gets for all it did for the world, we brought civilization to dark continents and exported things like Tea. We created roads and institutions and yet all people remember is "colonialism " ....its like thats all that matters Aren't you thankful to the UK ? Without UK there would be no USA Correct. The funny thing is the British are there own worst enemies and don't like to acknowledge all the good they did in the world ...its like they feel guilty ?

The slave trade is just a minor part of the proud history of the British We don't like to dwell on things that are negative ...remember Canada owes its foundation to the British

Yes they do think they religious..in fact ISIS takes certain parts of the Koran very literally Many Muslims don't consider them Islamic ....I don't know. I just consider them extremists that need to be annihilated

Volo my family is from Britain but I was born in SA What I always find interesting is how little credit the UK gets for all it did for the world, we brought civilization to dark continents and exported things like Tea. We created roads and institutions and yet all people remember is "colonialism " ....its like thats all that matters Aren't you thankful to the UK ?

Interesting, I phoned in on this typically black talk show and asked the Talk Show host who I know is very pro black consciousness about that website and why they feel the need to say " I don't like white people " ...she actually knows the two editors who made all these anti-white articles. She actually defended it and said " whats wrong with saying I don't like white people " ...I told her " well how can you say you dont like a whole racial group " Anyway it appeared she is okay to say that. I''ll be continuing to challenge that websites view....I don't care what they think. Racism is racism even if its not the same from black people. I am surprised that there black people who seem so militant but thats fine, I wont take offense

The point is that, as usual, the full weight of the law is falling on this idiot because she's small fish and being open about her reasons. If you are a big shot and smart enough to spread responsibility around with legal gymnastics, you can get away with murder, quite literally. We're all equal under the law, but some are more equal than others, right? To be fair this incident is a bit more significant than just some women She represents one of the last remaining unreasonable resistances to a Supreme Court ruling..its more symbolic And she was given many options and time to abide by the law ?

You right, for me I want to understand how this group of black South Africans could have become so bitter that they seem to believe that white people are still repressing them and treating them like slaves ? Its a failure of our transformation and it disappoints me

You beat me to it Raithe. Why is it the defenders of morality seldom are champions of it in their own lives? Or maybe we just are hip deep in hypocrites after all. The truth is if you have a moral objection the right thing to do would be resign. Not pull a Wallace and stand in front of the school house door. GD would you say she is hot in a court clerk sort of way ?

Epic fail of analysis ...weird for you as you are normally much more insightful on these matters Its a bad example to compare any war to this ....not sure how that is relevant in any way ?

Interesting, I really only align to the more liberal Democrats so that is interesting

You can't seriously think the Democrats and Republicans have the same views...thats something ignorant South Africans make when they attack the USA

OMG !!! Now I have complete contempt for her ..she played this religious card when in fact she was homophobic...I am actually annoyed and hope the really religious people who aligned with thinking she was being sincere are annoyed EDIT : Oh wait she hasn't changed her mind ....my bad

Please tell me she is not ....surly Heh, as if only a Republican can be a religious nutjob. Please tell me she is not ....surly It's a matter of public record that Davis is a Democrat. She should know, being that she is the County Clerk-Recorder, and thus the custodian of said records. Yes, isn't it true that most Conservative Christians and Chrsitian extremists are Republican? I always assumed that ...my bad Well I don't see how she can claim to be a Democrat when same sex marriage became so important to the Democrats in the last few years, Obama even publicly started supporting it

He would say that ALL HUMANS are equal in the eyes of god and ALL should treat each other with equal respect, regardless of gender, race, nationality or sexual orientation Well said ..thats exactly what he would have said and I'm not religious but I do think he lived and was a man of great kindness and humanity

Can you imagine what she would think of the gay Romance in DA Please tell me she is not ....surly

Also I hear she is a hardcore GG supporter.....typical

Volo ...sometimes in life there is too much law and not enough justice

Volo always ends up playing the metaphorical inexplicable Devils Advocate on these matters ...with a touch of Nazism thrown in of course