Yea, I feel the same way, in that (for obvious reasons) I can identify when playing a male or female character, and can transfer my thoughts, feelings and action upon them. But where a game breaks immersion for me is when romances rear their ugly heads. For example "THAT scene" with Ashley in Mass Effect, when that started I was thinking OH MY GAWD. PLEASE TELL ME THIS IS NOT HAPPENING! To the point I quickly tried to get through the dialogue and scene to end and then completely turned off the game and hit up the Bio boards to find out how to AVOID that encounter and start over. D:
I however typically like playing male characters, and the lack of a female choice does not really bother me that much when choosing to buy a game. However I like it a lot more if there IS an option to play both sexes.
My only concern in buying AP is that since you can only play a male, and there ARE romance options, if I avoid them, how much of the game will I miss out on? :/