I would go for the Machieavilian tactics here and put an iron fist, it's easier than trying to bring them to your level. Before anyone says anything about those tactics furthering support for our enemies, consider the following: they have very low levels of education and high poverty, which is why the Taliban targets those particular areas looking for suicide bombers. It's easier for us to prey on the same factors that drive them into the Taliban than to uplift them to our level and hope that they become "converts" into our way of living, on one hand we punish severely and on the other we offer a reward. Eventually those that do not fear might will seek the rewards, turning the tide to our favor.