Being butthurt when cycling comes from a saddle that blocks important blood flows due to bad design or suboptimal angle. (which can lead to potency problems!)
A good saddle is important, get one of those that have a long recess that allows your blood to flow where it needs to be. Check the angle of your saddle, it should point down a few degrees, it must not be perfectly flat, unless you want to reenact ''moses parts the water'' but with your balls.Also when climbing hills stand up from time to time, this also helps a great deal.
If you still experience severe ass pain even though you have upgraded your gear get padded cycling shorts, personally I've never used them but I've heard they work like magic.
With my saddle angle 65% of my weight is on my two arse bones alone, 35% on my triathlon bars. Oh, triathlon bars, they're so great. They dramatically lower and slim your silhouette so you are faster, they shift the weight distribution to the front wheel which helps to stabilize the bike when you reach speeds in excess of 80km/h (No more high speed wobble!), and they're super comfortable. Get those.