alanschu Posted February 18, 2009 Share Posted February 18, 2009 Sooooooo, I have decided that I no longer want to be that person that turns a blind eye and does nothing when people are slighting me....for the most part Some stuff isn't worth fighting over, but lately there was a rift in my recreational volleyball team, and I think some people might not have been really aware. Essentially I felt that the team was yelling at its players too frequently. One guy didn't seem to mind, and while I never got yelled at (because I'd snap back), it still bothers me to see my friends get yelled at. One incident had a friend of mine of 15 years get yelled at, and he has since decided that the team isn't for him so now I'm not playing volleyball with one of my best friends (he went to his first love, soccer). There was also mixed messages about how competitive we were to be as a team. It's a rec league, but it's always nice to win. But at one point people will be getting frustrated for playing poorly (individually or as a team), and the next they are trying to say that it's all just fun and games and trying to rationalize that the score isn't affecting them. We always talk about "unleashing" our best player, yet if he makes a solid hit that happens to go off a girl hard, the girls on our team get all mad at our player...even if the girl on the other team doesn't care. I was just invited to rejoin the team for a roadtrip tournament, which was a blast last year, but I need to discuss these issues with the team, for myself. So I responded saying I'd like to discuss things, because I believe a large part of the problem was that I was too apprehensive to say anything because I didn't really want to hurt anyone's feelings. It led to me not doing anything, and hence sort of assuming that the people that were annoying me, knew they were annoying me. That's not necessarily true though, and it's not fair for them since if I don't mention anything, how can I expect them to change? How much is too much though. I really just want to have a talk, and I do think that they are great people. I still respect them and certainly don't hate them (otherwise I wouldn't waste my time), but there's only so much "ignoring" I can do before things build up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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