alanschu Posted October 22, 2009 Share Posted October 22, 2009 Soooooooooooooo, As some of you may have known, I was messing around with YouTube the other day, and uploaded some COD 4 videos of me playing for fun. I also posted this on my Facebook for any of my friends there to see. Turns out because there was still some sort of processing being done, Facebook didn't properly import the picture/description from YouTube. As a result, it was basically a blind link with me saying "Hey this is cool." Afterwards I realized that maybe people wouldn't enjoy that, so I added a comment stating it was the last level from Call of Duty 4: Modern Warfare. One cousin commented on it, joking about how it was just like real life for him. Then...his sister posted...... She said "Kind of violent...this is entertainment?" At first I was like Then I figured I'd be nice, and assume she was just surprised that something violent could be entertaining (she's a medical doctor btw...recently graduated). So said yeah, and then made references to other media that is violent. I pointed out Macbeth (one of my favourite pieces of literature), as well as Platoon as an excellent movie that has a more realistic and gritty depiction of war. I then apologized for the link being a blind link, and mentioned I'd make sure to clarify things in the future. She replied with: "I don't care for violence in any form. I rarely watch the news anymore cause that's all it ever features. I remember the first time I shot a gopher. I almost vomited. Yet felt like I had to act matcho in front of my friends and so kept up the charade and continued to shoot more gophers. In less than an hour I went from disgusted to elated over the ensuing violence I was creating. Laughing at the guts spilling from their bodies and getting a kick out of the live gophers dragging their dead cousins so they could feed on them. Three weeks later I was travelling with [my aunt - not her mom] and her exboyfriend when he ran over a gopher on the side of the road. We were all laughing. [A mutual cousin], who was little at the time, started to cry. At that moment I realised the tragedy of the loss of her innocence. Inside, I cried too... and maybe I still cry. Violence is never right -not on video, in books or in real life. Maybe that's just me." At this point, coupled with my initial impressions of her first email, I felt offended and judged. I removed the link altogether, and sent a private message to her stating that I felt judged and insulted by her commentary. It's hard for me to just accept that apparently she does not "care for violence in any form" while I work on creating a violent video game. Or actively play, and SHARE, my experiences playing violent video games. I started off my message by apologizing to her for having a blind link to something she might not appreciate, and then commented that the comments section of my facebook link is not the place to criticize violence in the media, while bringing up her anecdotal evidence for its desensitizing effects. Given her rather specific and absolute expressions such as "I don't care for violence in any form" or "Violence is never right -not on video, in books or in real life" I had a hard time interpreting her comments as anything but passing judgment and making inferences of the negative effects it has on people. And I let her know that. Privately because I'm not an ass. But given how much she loved The Two Towers (saw it 9 times in the theaters), I started to simply believe she was a hypocrite. And I ****ing hate hypocrites. So she has since replied to me (I haven't read it), but my Mom phoned me shortly afterward (I let her and my Dad know the situation, to let them know I'd be avoiding family get togethers), mentioning that my cousin was posting on her facebook status updates stuff like "The wedding list keeps on getting smaller and smaller. And so does my family as I thought one was my friend." as well as "I guess a debate is a hate comment" or some other nonsense (I didn't go onto facebook to verify at the time since i knew I'd be pissed). Though when I did log back into Facebook, I laughed when I realized that both her and her mom have removed me from their Facebook friend's list. I told my Mom to NOT stoop to this pettiness, and while she has my back, I let her know that there are two sides to each story. So while I was angry at the time of reading her message, and I let her know, the aftermath only makes me feel vindicated. Airing dirty laundry as facebook status updates, and out and out removing me as a Facebook friend, WHILE crying to her Mom (my cousin is 34 years old) about it..... When I was younger I used to think that this cousin was a spoiled princess that never did anything wrong, with people always picking on her. When we both grew up a bit (she's 7 years older than me), we got along better, and felt she was less whiny. Though given her reaction, I think perhaps those traits still exist in some capacity. Anyways, judge me! At least I'm giving you permission Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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