Relationships Thread 2

[Laozi]

This might seem like a strange question, but why would you includw the girl's nationality in that story?

[dufflover]

I met my hubby through some work friends, we all hung out together occasionally for a while. He and I never really spent time 'alone', always with those friends around. I didn't even find him initally attractive.

When we broke up I met this other girl (Italian+Portuguese) we fell for each other quickly and I'm with her to this day. I'm happy every second I'm around her.

I think this is a good example of showing what I'd think of friendship vs relationship. Like if you meet someone and fall for them quickly you'd be making a friendship to get a relationship, where as LadyCrimson had the situation I'd be thinking of more with two people being "normal" friends then one day just falling for each other. Ofcourse it's hard to know if the other person had wanted a relationship all along and was very, very patient...

[foxdez]

This might seem like a strange question, but why would you includw the girl's nationality in that story?

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Cause it's a great mix and I like to flaunt it

[Laozi]

I see ^_^

[Krookie]

Cause it's a great mix and I like to flaunt it

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I don't blame you.

[Blank]

I'll see if I can find out what happened but I do remember reading that the last couple of pages were a bit graphic in some of the suggestions being offered.

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so... any progress on that thread? preferably keeping it present in locked mode so we can refer to it as history?

 

Also, i was arguing with a friend, and i wanted to ask the two women on this thread if they feel oppressed when being called a girlfriend when it "should" be womanfriend. because i just have never thought it was oppressive, just an unintentioned figure of speech.

Edited November 21, 2005 by Blank

[LadyCrimson]

Also, i was arguing with a friend, and i wanted to ask the two women on this thread if they feel oppressed when being called a girlfriend

 

Nope, doesn't bother me one whit.

But then, I don't generally find being called 'honey' or 'babe' or 'sugar' offensive either.

 

Women's rights (or anyone's rights) is good and all, but when it comes to words, it's just how it's used, what tone it's said in, and the situation, not the word itself. Sometimes, people need to relax.

[dufflover]

If two people were a couple I would've thought it was a compliment to be associated as someone's girlfriend/boyfriend, even if talking about full adults.

You'd find out pretty quickly I reckon if you had a chance with anyone who takes offence at that cos you'd find out during the "friendship" stage.

[Darth Launch]

Also, i was arguing with a friend, and i wanted to ask the two women on this thread if they feel oppressed when being called a girlfriend when it "should" be womanfriend. because i just have never thought it was oppressive, just an unintentioned figure of speech.

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I've never known any girl ever being offended or who has felt oppressed to be referred to as someone's girlfriend and I wouldn't see it that way either

 

If my boyfriend called me his "womanfriend" I'd think he was insane (he'd get this look from me: )... I've never heard of that term before... and if I felt I was too old to considered a "girlfriend" I'd rather he called me his "partner" even though that term makes me think of business suits

[dufflover]

I'd rather he called me his "partner" even though that term makes me think of business suits 

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This has made think of a question for people who have had more luck than me in social life (lol, everyone); say you're looking for a date for a formal occasion, like an awards night for your local sports team (or for the whole sport) and you don't have a specific girlfriend, but you have female friends (all single like everyone else in your circle of friends) you can ask.

 

Do you think it would (or does/doesn't from personal experience) change your feelings towards them (or you to them) ? Would it make a difference if you asked them all that same time like an announcement or individually at different times? Or would you just go alone, with a relative, etc.

Note not an advice question where I'm looking for what I should do or anything

[Darth Launch]

This has made think of a question for people who have had more luck than me in social life (lol, everyone); say you're looking for a date for a formal occasion, like an awards night for your local sports team (or for the whole sport) and you don't have a specific girlfriend, but you have female friends (all single like everyone else in your circle of friends) you can ask.

 

Do you think it would (or does/doesn't from personal experience) change your feelings towards them (or you to them) ? Would it make a difference if you asked them all that same time like an announcement or individually at different times? Or would you just go alone, with a relative, etc.

Note not an advice question where I'm looking for what I should do or anything

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First of all... you really need to stop putting yourself down... there's loads of people who are in the same or possibly worse social situations than you

 

About your question... it really shouldn't change your feelings for them... not unless something happened at the occasion... my uni holds many, many Balls throughout the year and I always go with my friends in a group... none of us ever ask our boyfriends... but maybe Balls are done differently in Australia... I don't suggest you ask multiple girls to a formal occasion... I'd suggest it'd be best to ask just one... if she's a friend she'd go, so you wouldn't need to ask more than one girl

[kirottu]

This has made think of a question for people who have had more luck than me in social life (lol, everyone);

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Edited November 21, 2005 by kirottu

[dufflover]

If you like I could tell you of someone I don

Edited November 21, 2005 by dufflover

[Surreptishus]

Omg, Kirottu was being serious

 

and it was good advice. Self loathing shows really easily

[kirottu]

If you like I could tell you of someone I don

Edited November 21, 2005 by kirottu

[kirottu]

Omg, Kirottu was being serious

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Bad luck in relationships is something that comes close to me as well. I have never fell for someone who would fell for me or other way around. I think the current score is 2-2.

[Pope]

While friendship might very well be a prerequisite to a relationship, sadly it is not sufficient.

[Blank]

Also, i was arguing with a friend, and i wanted to ask the two women on this thread if they feel oppressed when being called a girlfriend

 

Nope, doesn't bother me one whit.

But then, I don't generally find being called 'honey' or 'babe' or 'sugar' offensive either.

 

Women's rights (or anyone's rights) is good and all, but when it comes to words, it's just how it's used, what tone it's said in, and the situation, not the word itself. Sometimes, people need to relax.

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Thank you. that's what i think too : ) My friend went into a word analysis and was annoyed that our culture is too male-dominant: that boys "turn into" men much more quickly than girls to women. And that even though one would think having boys turn into men quicker would lower the overall value of being called a man because it is now closer to the level of a boy, that doesn't happen, but instead men are not regarded any lesser. I agree with the fact that people need to relax on this type of thing. If it bothers somebody, then i will respect that, but i cannot be convinced to think the same way. my friend was a guy too BTW...

I've never known any girl ever being offended or who has felt oppressed to be referred to as someone's girlfriend and I wouldn't see it that way either 

 

If my boyfriend called me his "womanfriend" I'd think he was insane (he'd get this look from me:  )... I've never heard of that term before... and if I felt I was too old to considered a "girlfriend" I'd rather he called me his "partner" even though that term makes me think of business suits 

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Sorry Launch, buy I wanted the answer from the 2 actual women on this forum, not any women spawned from a man's subconsious. sorry

[WinterSun]

He

[Blank]

He

[WinterSun]

Ok,apart from the stuff you mentioned I'm similar to him...I'm just not really a people person.

[metadigital]

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[He's a] friend of a friend and he

[metadigital]

I've never known any girl ever being offended or who has felt oppressed to be referred to as someone's girlfriend and I wouldn't see it that way either 

 

If my boyfriend called me his "womanfriend" I'd think he was insane (he'd get this look from me:  )... I've never heard of that term before... and if I felt I was too old to considered a "girlfriend" I'd rather he called me his "partner" even though that term makes me think of business suits 

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Sorry Launch, buy I wanted the answer from the 2 actual women on this forum, not any women spawned from a man's subconsious. sorry

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Um, Blank, Launch is a woman. You should learn to differentiate between humour and reality in comments posted on a foum. Launchie only posted one (humorous) comment about being located inside the psyche of Kaftan (not as painful as it sounds), and you seem to have decided that means she is not really a young female university student, but a figment of a young male university student's mind. Which is entirely wrong. Completely. Utterly. Irrevocably. Irrefutably. Irrefragibly. Ineluctably. Wrong. And bad. Bad AND wrong.

[Dark Moth]

Shh!

 

Actually, Launch and I talked Blank's misconceptions a while back. I'm surprised she never told him.

 

 

And -10 t.o.m.b.s. points for double posting.

[thepixiesrock]

-10 T.O.M.B.S. points Mothman.