This is another one of the situations where I have to wonder...is this more of a Star Wars game or an RPG game? I tend to think of it in terms of the former, being that I myself am a hardcore Star Wars fan and that's really the only reason why I played Kotor 1 and 2. I'm not an RPG-gamer by any means.
That being said, I have to ask: Did you play Kotor 1? If you did, then you could have expected that characters in the Kotor universe are rarely player-driven (other than the obvious choice between the Light and the Dark Side). You play as a character that was created for you, be it Revan or the Exile. I know it can be frustrating given that many other RPG's probably allow you to create unique characters of your own imagination, but that's just not the way it works in these games.
However, I do agree with you in your frustration that, much of the time, you were required to pass judgment on your past actions before you even knew what those actions were.
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This is really insulting. If you want people to treat your opinions with respect and respond in kind, don't say things like this.