this is actually what bugs me, doesn't seem right to make Hawke anything but male, since Bio is pedaling the male Hawke looks so much. they'd probably be better off concentrating on a male Hawke story and scratching the female option entirely.
no it didn't thank god. every time you met a female NPC, critical to the plot, you had the possibility to sleep with her and get her card, and that was that. it was completely optional, I intentionally missed most of it to save time. I guess it's pretty much the same in DA:O, only you get absolutely nothing for seducing members of your party. and in ME2 it was even worse. god, to think Bio would put it into each and every one of their games... I'd rather have a well-written love story inside the main story, maybe intertwined with the plot, involving a single character, preferably not in your party.
there are other ways to make a good RPG, w/o giving the player these godawful minigames and miniquests.