Checkpoint

With this particular woman it's rather a case of her seeing you as some sort of god for about a year when she's still madly and passionately in love with you. And then that passion wears off and suddenly anything you say or do just annoys her. It's more akin to what Rosbjerg said about reading the newspaper the wrong way; you just can't please her anymore.

True.. until 1+ years into your relationship, when their radar for these things gets overloaded once a week. Like when suddenly you've clearly done something wrong, by the way you are reading that newspaper.. It's also funny how your sense of humour is teh rockz in the beginning and after a while you lose all confidence in your own comic brilliance because she'll hate any joke you crack.

Good post. I too believe that we end up defining ourselves completely differently, and that once the partner you've had is gone you have trouble finding a direction because your whole life is so profoundly different without the other person in it. Me and my ex started our relationship about a month and a half after becoming flat-mates, so naturally, being flat-mates, we hung out all the time. Eight months later we moved to Spain for six months where we had no one but each other in a completely new environment, and then we moved in together upon returning to Sweden. That lasted six months. I think we managed to have a three-year relationship squeezed into one-and-a-half and that served to get us really tired of each other, but also to make life extremely empty when it all ended. Then this whole situation with her finding someone else within a few weeks came up and she even told me she had "planned" to be single but doesn't see why she shouldn't be seeing this guy when she really wants to. I guess she's entitled to that, but at the same time it sounds to me as though she herself sees something wrong with this and has to rationalise everything just give herself the green light to go ahead because she just can't help herself. Now, she may or may not have feelings for me left buried deep down, but if she has they'll most probably come up to the surface when she least expects them to and that could cause her to panic. Part of me hopes she knows what she's doing, but the part of me that still wants her back in spite of everything hopes she's just lying to herself to maintain her new passion trip. Ultimately, though, to connect back to the initial point, I feel as though this is something that has forced me to take action with myself. One of the things she never liked about me was my apathy and lack of vision for the future (and this new guy is studying to become a doctor, go figure), and that's something I now feel a great need to sort out with myself, even though it won't benefit me with her. I realise that things will just have to suck for a while, but I need to come out of everything stronger. I even allow myself to feel some hope in the meantime, because I know that sooner or later I'll get over her and I might as well try to make life easier on myself up until then. The hole she has left is very dominating in my everyday life, and it hurts terribly that she could just take that hole and stuff someone else into it, and that it apparently is standard procedure with her. Me, I can't do that, so then I need to work with myself. She doesn't seem to do that because she never looks back and so she never learns.

Oh I know the type - I met a girl like that about 6 years ago - and she, like your ex, had just come out of relationship. It's the "in love with being in love" girl. It's just as common as the "I can't commit right now - but I really like hanging out with you" guy. Both suffer from the same fundenmental problem - They are not willing to comprise their given take on love (I'm looking for someone who can handle ALL of me - I just haven't met the right boy/girl yet etc.) because when you get down to it, they are control freaks. If they aren't able to "handle" the situation excatly like they want, they'll feel really vunerable and uncomfortable. You can compare it to comfort-junkies. Place them in a situation they have no control over and they'll freak out. But even more so, it's like bad junkies - who ends up getting addicted to being addicted, they fix ceases to be what they are chasing, it's far beyond that - instead they become addicted to the rush associated with getting the rush. And then the bad cycle hits in. They can't cure they're need for drugs, because that's no longer their only addiction. Just like the "in love with being in love" girl and "I can't commit right now" guy, are more concerned with the whole situation than the actual person they are getting their love-fix from. Yes, I guess she's the "in love with being in love girl," although she has a very specific idea of how life is supposed to be. It's like when you're having sex and you're so passionate that you're thinking "we're gonna do this ten times tonight," even though you know you'll be quite sleepy when you're done with the first time. I think she's like that with love. She's so passionately in love that she desperately wants to be able to continue everything after the passion inevitably dies, but she just can't maintain it. Me, I'm often the "can't commit right now" guy you also described and I guess that was part of the problem for us as well. But I feel as though even if I were a more experienced and passionate boyfriend I still wouldn't have been able to live up to her standards once the passion wore off. One year ago she wanted kids running circles around us, and now everything between us is just barren. And I still say this angle is ultimately pointless. The whole expanse of human existence is just protons, electrons etc. Saying so is like telling the same thing to a man whose house is on fire. Except that's a pretty fixed set of chemical reactions, and chemistry might actually help. Which is my point, when something is THIS COMPLEX a chemical problem it transcends mere chemistry. To put it another way, trying to use chemistry as the answer is like telling the average man in the street to drive in realtime, using binary. I agree that Checkpoint sounds as if he dodged a bullet. However, I'm a believer in the notion that if it feels like a situation sucks it probably does on at least some level. I'd suggest you're hacked off because at some stage she has to grow up, and when she does she'll be pretty cool. But you won't be there. The good news, as I finallly worked out a couple of years ago, is that all the things you liked about her... other women have them too. Whether its eyes, a passion for hockey, you name it. And what's best of all is that those other women will have unique new traits to make up for any you miss. Like the ability to mix really good drinks, or DJ, or cure cancer. And now _I_ feel better. I'd almost forgotten that. That's precisely what disturbs me the most. Good feedback people!

Yes. I still love her, but I realise that time will heal my wounds, and by the time that happens I guess that's exactly what I'll be thinking. Right about now I just can't get over her, though.

I am at a point in life where love, romance and passion are central issues. Me and my ex-girlfriend broke up about two months ago; it was a mutual decision but on my initiative, and she would have preferred to try to repair it at the time but felt that I had other plans for my future. Six weeks later I had come to the conclusion that I felt like I'd lost a limb and really loved her truly, madly, deeply, but she was completely detached and uninterested, and had started dating someone else. Most of you will now think "REBOUND," but trust me, this girl is different. As it later turned out, she and this new fellow agreed on their first date the week after we broke up, so naturally I feel disintegrated, replaceable and incredibly hurt. But I guess this kind of thing happens and she claims that normally she always has a period of being single before starting something new. However, she started seeing me just as quickly after her previous boyfriend as well and something about the whole situation just started smelling really rotten. A few days passed and I met one of her friends at a small music festival. He also happens to be her ex-boyfriend from a number of years back and knows her really well. So he told me he hadn't had any contact with her since we broke, nor did he want to, so he didn't know about her finding someone new. But he was very unsurprised and informed me that this is what happens basically every time with her and that if she tells me otherwise she's flat-out lying. And then he ran through my whole relationship with her without actually talking directly about MY relationship, but his own and what he has observed since. It was as though he was reading my thoughts. Basically what happens is that she has this dream of a life-long love and children and all that jazz, and she knows perfectly well that the initial passion will start fading away after about a year. So basically she has this really specific picture in her head of what the relationship is supposed to look like once the passion starts wearing off, and it's basically impossible to live up to all that (and I'm not the most romantic fellow in the world, and this was also my first real relationship so I didn't really know what was required of me) for any guy. Then she tries to repair everything, but rather for her own sake and her own dream of something life-long. Then that doesn't work and the relationship inevitably ends, because at the same she has this attitude and starts manipulating you and make you feel guilty about the whole thing so you start getting really tired of her too. She even admitted to this problem herself, but rather than saying that she needs to work on this, she tells me she wants someone who can handle it! So you break up, and then enters a normal state of shock for both which lasts around a week. Me, I start digesting at that point, while she starts looking forward. Suddenly I'm a lost passion left behind and she very easily falls in love again. Passion fools her, because once it wears off she walks into the same trap due to her complete inability to adapt to her boyfriend while fully expecting him to adapt to her. I don't have time to continue this wonderfully interesting rant right now, but I think I got some of it off my chest.

I like 5 in 7 better.

Actual roleplaying was not Bio's strong point. The whole storyline is meant to be played as a goody-two-shoes character. Why else would Imoen be a crucial character to the plot? What kinda game forces you to bring a good character with you (okay, so you can choose to dump her immediately, but c'mon, it's pretty obvious you're supposed to have her, especially in BG2), and then claim that you can play the game any way you want? Just like in KotOR, you're either good or flat out evil. There's no subtlety in there.

I haven't caught a single playoff game. But these finals sure seem quite electric.

We get a lot of zombie invasions here in Stockholm. It's called "S

And a complete change of attitude. Jaheira is only mildly annoying next to her inconceivably irritating hubby.

Where did you that quote from? Edit: The answer is Voltaire. I didn't know that. It's one of those quotes that gets thrown around, after all.

Only the Holy Roman Empire should perhaps have been called the Not-So-Holy German Mishmash-of-Variously-Independent-Domains-Ranging-from-Smaller-Estates-to-Entire-Kingdoms. It was a conglomerate with little-to-no centralised power. The popular notion is that the Holy Roman Empire was neither holy, Roman, nor an empire.

Just remember: if you are playing the vanilla Oblivion version, the rule of thumb for character design is to place the skills that are most important to your class in your minor slots and put the least important skills that you don't plan to use in your major slots and then use those unimportant skills to control your leveling speed. When the game was first release most people played it this way until mods started appearing that changed how the leveling mechanics worked. I've already been informed by my cousin that the game isn't worth playing unmodded, so mods are a must for me. I just want to know in what ways these mods improve the game, and if they in turn make the game worth playing (and I trust my cousin's judgment on this because we usually have a pretty similar taste when it comes to games). But I suppose if I do play it, I'll ask him and also have a look at the mods suggested in this thread. Only some suggestions seem to be conflicting, even in terms of compatibility and not just general awesomeness/uselessness.

The reason for that of course is that all "classes" and any player character that you custom design are functionally identical and they become more so the longer you play. During development, we were told that this problem, which also plauged Morrowind, would be fixed so that different characters would actually be different. This of course didn't happen and the problem was actually made worse. In Oblivion's design there is really no need for skills. It would have been more efficient for Todd Howard to eliminate the major/minor seperation of skills since the difference is cosmetic only and has zero effect on gameplay. Rather simply start all skills at the same level and let them all develop at the same pace. Or, even better and more in line with Oblivion's design, woudl have been to eliminate skills all together and simply approach it as an FPS: players can do whatever they want and skill numbers are not neccessary. Oh please, that's a piss poor analysis of the games design. Could you elaborate a bit there? I'm genuinely curious because I'm thinking of firing this game up myself and don't really know whose opinion to trust.

The problem is that Anakin is a complete doofus. He's getting so obviously played by Palpatine without seeing it, and it isn't surprising that he falls in the end because you can see from a mile away that this dude is bad news. He is arrogant, creepy and easily offended. The biggest problem for me with how Anakin was handled in the prequels is that I as a viewer feel no sympathy whatsoever for this guy, so ultimately I feel no remorse whatsoever when he ends up with the bad guys. It's just "meh," especially the way the actual fall was done. Lucas stacked the films with clumsy hints of Anakin's "dark side," yet he somehow managed to make the actual fall feel like the result of a coin flip. And he still tries to sell Anakin's fall as an act of skewed good in order to save Padm

I wanna see this mod if only to shove it up the collective arses of LA. It'd be nice if it came out and got some recognition as a massive fix to a blatantly rushed game. I am, though, a touch out of the loop as to how much they're actually aiming to restore? I suppose I could rummage around and find the info myself, but could some kind soul please outline the basic contents of the restorable material? They can't get it ALL back, can they?

The general order of events was a bit wacky at times, but it made me smile.

I live in Barcelona, Spain. My computer lives in a cupboard in Stockholm, Sweden. I don't play a whole lot of games. But I'm going back in a month and will be glued to some NHL Eastside Hockey Manager '07 and Civ IV. Plus I'll be speaking fluent Spanish. I really won't be speaking fluent Spanish.

Yikes! This is bad news, right? Even though there is the odd exception, EA doesn't exactly scream quality (RP) games to me. Were Bioware working on anything anyway?