Yeah, I do agree it's an unfortunate thing... although I'm a female gamer and am playing a female Exile, and I am glad the exile doesn't fall under the stereotype. (plus I don't have the Handmaiden so I don't have to worry about any naked fighting :D ) What's so great about choosing what the exile says is that you get to determine her strengths and weaknesses, so she is by no means a stereotypical woman, and I love that about the game.
To some degree, the male characters are also stereotyped and have their own weaknesses... although you'll never see them fight naked unless you force them to disrobe
Disciple (from at least what little I've noted of him so far) seems like the loyal servant type, as does Bao-dur, and from what I gather Atton loves you pretty deeply and would die for you, so perhaps he's not so unlike Visas, just handled differently. Though he hides it (mostly) well, he's also a wreck with no real sense of self.
Obviously the females still have more negative qualities in comparison, but just attempting to be a slight devil's advocate here. :">