And yes there is a love/ hate relationship. I think what George Lucas initally allowed a few writers to do got too far out of hand, because he underestimated how much people desperatly wanted more Star Wars. The EU was probaly never meant to be on par with the actual Star Wars universe, but what are you going to do, say no to a multiple billion dollar a year industry? I would like too hear someone actuallty say no and then I would call them a liar.
I ahve my problems with the new movies too, but I made my peace with that a llong time ago, why? Because Lucas did them, and if he wants to have Yoda put on a skirt and skish around for us then thats his decision and his alone.