You are discussing with a, well, I won't judge him too quickly, but he might be related to creatures from nordic mythology... Boys will be boys.
This is not about womens rights, Takamori. Its about realism and a believable world.
Well sorry for that then, I'm kinda getting grumpy with the "romance and feminism" subject being over discussed and people not giving relevance to stuff like the game itself.
Regarding the realism, you need all kind of people in the world, thin, athletic , fat , ugly, beautiful and all the combinations that we are used to see on the real world.
Sorry for laughing at the people who doesn't want a ugly person in their party, but hell what is wrong with you, the human nature is made of imperfection, is pretentious to seek perfection when we are made of flaws.
If you are a good leader you need to get through all these differences, normally the game set you as the "party leader" nothing more natural to throw you these challenges.
Regarding sexism, you need to see how both are portrayed, how is the culture of X society, history , how they behave in their routine...So asking for a perfect humanist society in a game where you adventure find what the society can bring of worst, is kinda a unrealistic wish.
You can have one society thriving for those goal of course, but you need to deal with differences.