I don't think you can really compare your current life with that of a fantasy setting where you are cast into an "epic" quest or story - one would assume that "getting laid" would certainly take second, third or even fourth place in the priority list of the protagonist. What you are describing is a drama RPG of some sorts, and not a fantasy RPG.
Characters in fantasy are rarely motivated by love, did you read any books in the setting perhaps ? You will find it's mostly based on heroism of some sort, tales of saving lives and self sacrifice. Some sort of romantic flings are included here and there, but this should really not be anywhere near the spotlights here. Please realize what genre this game is belonging to.