We had the talk with the consultant in September where he gave us the "Think months, not years" conversation. Awkward placement of the main cancer, my fathers age, signs of other spots of cancer in his lungs. Any potential operation on the main cancer would be along the lines of a 12 hour plus surgery and have a high chance of leaving him partially paralysed, and that's if he was in a fitter condition than he is currently so it's not something they want to risk.
Edit: And I have now spent ALLL the money on the new suit. Taking advantage of the miserable weather and the world cup to go in when it's quiet, and getting the firm reminder that going into a purpose shop with helpful tailors and assistants in store to subtly advise and help you through things is something you miss with online ordering.
Still, spending silly cash on a suit is worthwhile because unless I massively change shape it's going to last for bloody ages.