and to re-clarify that pic is everything my pc was doing. not just the game. so when i play grounded its asking for 3GB of ram. and at the time of crash windows and other apps are asking for 2.9GB. and its not asking for much cause i'm used to playing with lower settings cause i know i don't have a top end PC. and i know its cause of my graphics card. this whole post was more about laying bare everything taking place on my pc to help rule things out. like the ram.