metadigital Posted September 11, 2006 Share Posted September 11, 2006 Why love, if losing hurts so much? I have no answers anymore: only the life I have lived. Twice in that life I've been given the choice: as a boy and as a man. The boy chose safety, the man chooses suffering. The pain now is part of the happiness then. That's the deal. Shadowlands OBSCVRVM PER OBSCVRIVS ET IGNOTVM PER IGNOTIVS OPVS ARTIFICEM PROBAT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dark_Raven Posted September 12, 2006 Author Share Posted September 12, 2006 i now find out. The moment of truth has arrived. Hades was the life of the party. RIP You'll be missed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Walsingham Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 "What did it matter where you lay once you were dead? In a dirty sump or in a marble tower on top of a high hill? You were dead, you were sleeping the big sleep, you were not bothered by things like that. Oil and water were the same as wind and air to you. " From my man, Raymond Chandler. "It wasn't lies. It was just... bull****"." -Elwood Blues tarna's dead; processing... complete. Disappointed by Universe. RIP Hades/Sand/etc. Here's hoping your next alt has a harp. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosbjerg Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 I don't think the pain fades; I think we get better at managing it. Just like bravery is not the absence of fear, just the determination to do the right thing in the presence of it. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Depends on the loss .. the more severe the more it fades (imo), I've lost a close friend and my Dad .. and the loss of my father is what feels the most distant now! As you shut out the reality of the situation your minds slowly deletes the content of your memories in the background.. in the end you are left with a kind of shell, a hollow memory that only serves to fill out the otherwise blanks of your mind.. Fortune favors the bald. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darque Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colrom Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Some of my memories which I could not bring forward on demand later remembered themselves on their own in their own time. As dark is the absence of light, so evil is the absence of good. If you would destroy evil, do good. Evil cannot be perfected. Thank God. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosbjerg Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 It's not like I don't remember .. because I do! but it feels like a childhood memory. You only remember because someone told you about it .. it's there, but it feels empty.. as if you instinctively know that you are the architect behind most of the content.. and didn't really want to remember it that well to begin with.. Fortune favors the bald. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
6 Foot Invisible Rabbit Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Why not remember? I remember my grandmother, both the good and ill, and I don't feel bad about it. In order to live we die, in order to die we live. One just needs to accept that and accept the memories and revel in them for that is all you have left when the person in question has passed on. Don't repress memories and the emotions they bring, embrace them. Harvey Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosbjerg Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Why not remember? I remember my grandmother, both the good and ill, and I don't feel bad about it. In order to live we die, in order to die we live. One just needs to accept that and accept the memories and revel in them for that is all you have left when the person in question has passed on. Don't repress memories and the emotions they bring, embrace them. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> For some people true .. but others would be a neurological mess if they embraced the reality of it .. so I agree and disagree! We shouldn't forget entirely, but neither should we dwell on such memories for too long.. Fortune favors the bald. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyCrimson Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 There's remembering and there's dwelling. Dwelling to me indicates the pain/fear/anger hasn't healed enough to become an open and unrepressed memory vs. something that stops you from moving forward, if that makes sense. Course, like Rosbjerg said, some people are still able to function very well while 'dwelling' and indeed may not even realize that's what they're doing - and some aren't. “Things are as they are. Looking out into the universe at night, we make no comparisons between right and wrong stars, nor between well and badly arranged constellations.” – Alan Watts Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Walsingham Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 I think my large rabbit friend there has a point. You may as well get on with it, because you can't avoid it. And you can't dodge it either! Best to let it flow through you cleanly. "It wasn't lies. It was just... bull****"." -Elwood Blues tarna's dead; processing... complete. Disappointed by Universe. RIP Hades/Sand/etc. Here's hoping your next alt has a harp. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colrom Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 (edited) Why not remember? I remember my grandmother, both the good and ill, and I don't feel bad about it. In order to live we die, in order to die we live. One just needs to accept that and accept the memories and revel in them for that is all you have left when the person in question has passed on. Don't repress memories and the emotions they bring, embrace them. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> For some people true .. but others would be a neurological mess if they embraced the reality of it .. so I agree and disagree! We shouldn't forget entirely, but neither should we dwell on such memories for too long.. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Yeah. I agree. There are some memories about people and events that are horrible! Really, really, really horrible. Getting past them is probably a good idea. It's not like they can really be completely forgotten, anyway. Edited September 13, 2006 by Colrom As dark is the absence of light, so evil is the absence of good. If you would destroy evil, do good. Evil cannot be perfected. Thank God. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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