Saying that the female romance was a disapointment is pretty much an understatement, particularly when (as several of ya'll have pointed out) there was so darn much potential!
The only thing that I got that was stronger than a hint that Atton liked you AND that gave the Female PC some opportunity to say how she felt was in a conversation with Mira. Apparently the PC thinks Mira is looking at her funny and asks what's wrong. Mira goes into an explanation of how the PC is "glowing". The PC responds that it's the force to which Mira replies, "Oh. I thought you and Atton had hooked up a power coupling." The PC then has an opportunity to play dumb (Mira is funny -- "Didn't you get out much as a Jedi? I'm asking if you and Atton have been intimate!") Anyway, the PC's options in responding are to say dumb things like:
"I don't like him like that"
"I see him as more of a brother." (ARGH...Shades of Princess Leia!)
"I care about him but I can't get involved within anyone right now." (About the best you can do with this conversation btw.)
There's a more DS answer as well but I don't remember it at this point.
Anyway, some content patches would be lovely but even better (hey LucasArts, I'm willing to spend $$$!) would be if OE could take the missing material (endings, HK factory) and make a "gold" version/expansion of the original KoTOR II. I'd buy it.... hint hint...
Caleth