Obsidian is dealing with this issue like my 50 year old father deals with my 80 year old grandmother: Approving in front of everybody her sometimes very eccentric behaviour (see the official update), but then belittling her in private talks with other family members (see new poem: Here lies Firedorn, a bard, a poet; He was also a card, but most didn't know it; A poem he wrote in jest was misread; They asked for blood, so now he's just dead)
A false pad on the shoulder, thereby preventing a serious discussion and a search for a consensus only leads to much more false pads in the future and a growing unhappiness for both parties.