Frankly, I find that quite often in games where female characters lack any semblance of characterization, their male counterparts have the personality of a brick. There's a tendency to disregard context in these situations. Few feminist critics take into account most games are made by straight men who, naturally, will want female eye candy and will default to male for their characters. Even more so if we take into account most game developers care very little for story or characters, so those areas have a tendency to, well, suck.
I mean, how many times has progress come from an outside group? Should African Americans have dropped that civil rights nonsense and waited for some big white-as-chalk fish to decide he felt like giving them a hand? Then why should women, or homosexuals expect straight white male (SWM) developers to cater to them? Most straight males have no interest and no investment in making other groups happy. Nor are they obligated to.
Why do you think The Sims got same sex relationships back in 2000? Because there was someone high in the chain of command who happened to be homosexual. I think the moral of that story is pretty obvious. Some SWM may feel inclined to cater to minorities, for one reason or the other, but most of them won't. And that doesn't make them terrible people, just human. If said minorities want representation, more of them should get into the gaming industry and try to effect change from there.
What I'm trying to say with this rant is, you have a point.