I was wondering were you can learn the echani fighting styles if u female if some 1 could help me out here would really be nice thanks

I'm pretty sure you have to be male to learn because the Handmaiden who teaches you the moves is only in your party if you're male. You can spar with the handmaidens in Atris' stronghold in the Telos polar regions, but I don't think they teach you anything. There is a mod on pcgamemods.com to get handmaiden in your party if you're female. It probably includes her teaching the Exile Echani moves.

You can't "learn" the Echani fighting style. If you have handmaiden in your party, she will teach you a defensive feat, but that's it. Jedi get pretty good unarmed damage anyway, so I doubt the echani could teach you anything.

how bout try fighting them handmaidens on telos polar cap

Actually, would not mind seeing some kind of fight in the polar area, except when having to fight without clothes on.