Obviously, no one -has- to help me, but I'm frustrated by my experience so far, and I feel like I'm missing something key. I want desperately to love it, but I need to fix my approach.
First, my background: "Back in the day" I played all of NWN 1 and 2, and their x-pacs. While I know neither of those are technically an IE game, I thought that was close enough. Playing PoE, I'm worried that I might have forgotten a lot.
My character: Moon Godlike Cipher. I'm willing to re-roll this guy to enjoy this game, if that's what I need to do. From some of my reading, I take it that this is a somewhat more difficult class? How would a druid or ranger compare? Or should I just go full fighter? I'm open to advice on this front.
My experience: Lots of dying. I think I've learned a lot from trial-and-death, but I've hit a wall with what I can figure out myself.
FIRST HOUR OR SO SPOILERS TO DESCRIBE MY LOCATION IN-GAME:
I have spent a little time in the Guilded Vale, and have received the quest to meet a Watcher. Edér and Aloth have joined my party. With a Fighter (which I had take Guardian Stance at a recent level-up) and a Wizard, I thought I might finally be successful at Eothas' tomb. I was finally able to clear the first floor without a ton of issues, getting used to using doorways as choke point with a little success. I changed my formation so that Edér leads, my cipher is behind him (I like him having to take a moment to come around into melee - maybe it helps the tank establish aggro??) and Aloth several squares back.
I don't micromanage Edér much, sometimes I use his Knockdown. I micromanage (with spacebar) Aloth and my cipher a great deal. When Shadows and whatnot beeline for Aloth, I have my Cipher use a first-level Charm ability. Sometimes it even works, heh. My 2 damage do-ers otherwise get micro-managed into using their biggest AoEs, and my problems SEEM (from my perspective) to come from positioning? I guess I don't know how to be more defensive, or what to do besides throw up my hands when it all goes pear-shaped. And when it does, it does so fast.....
I -did- start the game on Normal, but I have swallowed my pride and bumped it down to Easy. And swallowed it further to get help. Because I really do want to love this game - I want to know more about the world, I love the actual RPing opportunities it's had so far. But last night I quit in a rage. I just die over and over, no matter how much I think and adjust.
In summary, the things I've done that involve NOT just running in and auto-attacking:
A formation with my "tank" in front (though I wish he'd ever hold aggro)
Use doorways to block packs when possible.
Careful use of AoE uber-nukes from my Wizard and Cipher
Constant use of spacebar - I'm not trying to manage them in real-time
Tank has picked up and activated Guardian Stance
Swallowed my pride, turned the difficulty down to Easy and asked for help.
Am I hopeless? I get the impression I'm playing the whole thing wrong, somehow, and I want so much to love it. I backed it, I believe in it, and I dont' want to give up.
Thank you to anyone who takes the time to give kindly advice.