I completely agree with you bubblyofart (and I'm also a guy). The relationship between Bastila and Revan was so intriguing, and so deep. And, after Bastila finally declares her love for you, the game abruptly ends. As if that wasn't disappointing enough, I've read that Bastila only makes one or two very brief cameos in KOTORII (I haven't played it yet).
One of the main reasons that I kept playing KOTOR was because of Bastila. I just couldn't wait until I could develop that relationship further and learn more about Bastila, her feelings, and her past.
And no, I'm not obsessed with her. I just think she was a great character.