Constantly being disconnected on console and pc

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I have been getting disconnected for a while now every 15 minutes or so from my partners game since weve been playing but with the most recent update, I get disconnected every 2 to 3 minute, sometimes even 5 seconds after I join. The game is currently unplayable on multiplayer. All my drivers are up to date and I'm playing the most recent version. My specs are good so I should have no issues there. We share the same Internet and have both tried using lan which does not fix the issue. This never happens to whoever is hosting, but will happen on both pc and Xbox to the other person. We tried inviting each other through Xbox and it did not solve the issue. I've done a lot of looking into this and I've tried a lot of things people have said and none of it works.