I dunno, I disagree with everything you say here. The two certainly play completely differently. And I actually like them both.I didn't realise the two games had anything in common. Wait, I still don't.
Is Deus Ex anything more than an over hyped Alpha Protocol?
Nothing? Seems a fair bit to me - crappy tactical shooter mechanics tacked onto an RPG with your stat based upgrade system that tries to do everything but isn't great in anything, and oh yeah, embarrassing boss battles. Alpha Protocol does do one thing pretty great though, the dialogue system, including it's decent characters. Deus Ex looks like a similiar experience with weaker character interaction, the sole thing that makes Alpha Protocol enjoyable.
If gaming's become such a chore, maybe you should pick up knitting or zumba.